Monday, December 9, 2013

Choosing Wisely

The other day someone asked about how they could know the very best (in their context, God’s will] for their lives – as it related to making a career choice.  This young person would soon face a choice – pursue higher education (in which case they needed to know which university and which program they should embark on) – or make a different choice - perhaps begin work immediately, or join the army, etc.

Such a clearly marked out life choice is not a daily decision.  But every day we do make decisions, and the essence of the matter is always the same.  How do we make GOOD decisions?  As I answered this young man’s question, it occurred to me that what he was really asking is how to gain the skill of discernment. 

Discernment isn’t a word you hear too often anymore. My dictionary defines discernment as, “noun: the ability to judge well: an astonishing lack of discernment.”   Unfortunately it’s the example my dictionary gives that is so often modeled for us.  Headlines are made when people do not use discernment, and headlines are made every day.  Rare is the case when the headline is because of a well-made decision! 

The problem is best seen in the context of something a man named Paul said to a group of friends many years ago.  In talking about seeking God (the best possible decision) he said, “For from the creation of the world, his invisible attributes, both his eternal power and deity, are discerned clearly, being understood in the things created, so that they are without excuse.”[1]  That’s absolutely true – even the smallest amount of discernment will result in understanding that all we see around us mandates a creator.  The core of the problem is that so many fallen people LACK discernment at all.
 
You would think that such a gaping need would be quickly filled.  Yet there are no classes (or at least, I’ve never seen them, neither in high school or college or university) that are there specifically to teach you discernment.   As a skill, it is left for the individual to pick up themselves along the way entirely through their own faculty.  What that looks like is a degree in the school of hard knocks and expensive mistakes. 
But learning that way costs much.  There are many painful errors, and the consequences of those errors do not fade so easily.  What then of the church?  Will it teach discernment? 

When I google, ‘sermons on love’, I get 21.8M hits.  When I google ‘sermons on grace’, I get 10.5M hits. When I search for ‘sermons on salvation’ I get 6.6M hits.  But if you search for sermons on discernment, you get only 0.58M hits.  In a way that’s expected, yet how can one even CHOOSE love, or grace, or the Kingdom of God, without either exercising discernment (making a wise choice) or being prompted by another?  One could make a case that ALL discernment must be prompted by another, and that God in His grace and love for us has deliberately put us in community SO THAT we might have others to go to.

But such a case would require that every decision be discerned through community, and there are clearly many (most) decisions that we must make on our own (for lack of time if no other reason).  Further, many times the majority of people we are in community with are not making wise choices themselves.  If they were, we wouldn’t have so many headlines, and ‘common sense’ would actually be common. 

There is however, a way to get what you lack without earning it.  It can be given to you by someone who has it to give.  Most fortunately, the Lord has all discernment, and He is willing to give us a gift of discernment if we ask for it!  And asking for it is always the first step in exercising it.

Ultimately, my young friend must do exactly that.

END.





[1] Barry, J. D., & Kruyswijk, R. (2012). Connect the Testaments: A Daily Devotional. Bellingham, WA: Lexham Press.

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